Parenting is not an easy task and good parenting demands hard work.
A good parent aims at making decisions that are in the best interest of his or her child. It is important to note that being a good parent does not mean being a perfect one since no one is perfect.
Neither the parent nor the child is perfect. With that in mind, we can better set our expectations, first for ourselves as parents and our children too.
Here are the first five of the 10 tips on learning effective parenting skills we have for you, which are neither quick nor easy to do all of the time but if one can keep working on them, even though one may only do part of these some of the time, one will still be moving in the right direction.
We have to walk the walk as parents. Not just telling your child what one wants them to do. One has to show them how to do it. Show them positive behaviour and attitude, have empathy towards your child’s emotion — and your child will follow suit.
Show your love as parents. There is no such thing as loving your child too much. Loving your children cannot spoil them. Loving your child can be as simple as giving them hugs, spending time with them and listening to their issues seriously.
Give your child positive experiences for they are created, strengthened and “sculpted” through experiences across our lives. Sing that mindless song. Have a tickle marathon. Go to the park. Laugh with your child. Solve an issue together with a positive attitude. These positive experiences create good connections in your child’s brain and form the memories of you that your child carries for life. When it comes to discipline, it seems difficult to remain positive. Yet one can practise positive discipline where the focus is on the reason behind the child’s behaviour, making it an opportunity to learn for the future, rather than to punish for the past.
Being A Safe Haven
You as a parent should be responsive to your child’s signals and sensitive to their needs. Let your child know that you’ll always be there for them. You should in fact, be there safe haven. Children raised by parents who are consistently responsive tend to have better emotional development, social development, and mental health outcomes.
Communicating And Integrating
Keep an open line of communication with your child. This ensures a better relationship with your child and your child will come to you when there’s a problem. Talk to your child and also listen to them carefully. Another reason to communicate with your child is that it helps your child integrate various parts of his/her brain. These different parts of the brain will function harmoniously as a whole when integrated via communication, and this results in fewer tantrums, more cooperative behaviour, and more empathy.